The Mind Twisting Subject of Dateing

I was reading a book the other night that really got me to thinking. The book? "Full Frontal Feminism";The Author?Jessica Valenti; My problem? She's right. Valenti's book explains what a true feminist is and that no matter what others say, women need to stand up, speak up and not put up with shit.  I have spent, lets say twenty years and yes I am being kind to myself, trying to figure out why relationships are so difficult and what could possibly be wrong with me. I have discovered in just a few short chapters of this text that,"Hey! It really isn't all my fault." I have made some stupid choices in men, knowing, going into the relationship that it was wrong for me. However, I was taught growing up certain rules and regulations regarding men. If you slept with them you married them, (check out the "saliva-fouled" suckers, in Valenti's book on page 24), if you love them you married them, if you want to be successful at being a woman.....right. I have decided to take Valenti's road and say,"You know what? A man has never made me successful, he has only brought me down. I choose to live and love my own way, no matter what you might think and if you don't like it you can kiss my femmy arse. I wish this book had been available to me years ago, I wouldn't have had to struggle so much with the way I was thinking and the way "they" were. I would have been better off. I am not saying that loving and being in a relationship is not important, I am saying that loving and being in a relationships does not make you important.